The One Thing That Will Change Your Holiday & Prevent Holiday Burnout!

The holidays can be stressful... and no it's not all in your head! Many people feel that way. There’s wrapping, cooking, long lines, shopping, decorating, planning and SO MUCH TO DO! Read on for one tip that will change your holiday and prevent burnout.

The holidays can be stressful... and no it's not all in your head! Many people feel that way. There’s wrapping, cooking, long lines, shopping, decorating, planning and SO MUCH TO DO! Read on for one tip that will change your holiday and prevent burnout.

Would you describe the holidays as a “very stressful situation?” Stressful enough to cause burnout? For 1 in 3 Americans the answer is “Yes!”

One in three Americans say they suffer from “festive burnout” even before holidays hit! In fact, according to the results, 'festive burnout' will set in for 36 percent of Americans before mid-December, with a further 17 percent saying it sets in before December even starts.

Why the burnout?

There’s so much to do in an already jam-packed life! And there’s music blaring, long lines, non-stop ads, and too much to do! And most of the burden falls on women, especially moms.

In the survey, which saw 2,000 people participate, the average American will spend 38 hours - nearly two full days - getting ready or preparing for the holiday season in some fashion. That’s a lot of work.

But this one simple thing can change that… Ready? You have to ask for help.

But you have to have a plan when you ask for help!

Here are the top recommendations from Bella Gandhi, a relationship expert who contributed to an ABC Good Morning America segment on this issue (you can scroll down and watch it below).

When you ask for help:

  • Know what you need: Take time to figure out your biggest stressors. From there know your strengths and your partner’s strengths. Ask yourself, “How can my partner help me?”

  • Be specific in your request. If I make the list, will you go shopping? Your partner wants you to be happy so they will most likely comply, but let them exactly what you want.

  • Find ways to split up tasks.

    • For example, splitting up shopping is actually a big win for freeing up time. According to the survey, the biggest chunk of time during the holidays was spent shopping, which takes up over 13 hours of the average American's time, whether it be picking out the perfect gift for a loved one or simply getting food for cooking.

    • The average American will spend nine hours and 17 minutes in the kitchen cooking up, as well, over the holiday season -clocking in over a day of full-time work. This is another great area to split up, whether it’s food prep (peeling and chopping) or cleaning the dishes while the other person cooks.

    • Seven hours is the average time spent decorating. This is another great task to split up! (You put up the tree and I’ll decorate it.)

  • Have the conversation at a peaceful time! Nothing will set up your request for help to fail like having it at a stressful time or jumping your partner right as they walk through the door. Maybe choose to do it after dinner or when you’re going to bed. Don’t do it when you’re fed up and exhausted!

It’s worth it to ask for help. This one thing can change everything for how the holidays feel!

Let us know if you have any other tips or what your secrets are for keeping the holidays healthy!